Presenting concern
The argument is almost never about the dishes.
Erin has worked with couples and families as well as individuals, and with individuals who are doing relationship work alone because their partner is not ready. All three are legitimate places to start.
01Relationship Issues
The pattern, not the incident
One pursues, one withdraws, both feel unmet, and the specific topic is almost interchangeable. Once a couple can see the loop while it is happening, they have something to interrupt.
02Relationship Issues
What you learned about closeness
How safe you expect other people to be was largely settled before you chose anyone. Erin's work with childhood attachment injuries is directly relevant here, and often explains a reaction that has never made sense to either of you.
03Relationship Issues
Anger and communication
Anger management is one of Erin's most experienced areas. The aim is not to stop feeling angry — it is to get the information out of the anger before it gets out of you.
Signs this is the right page
- The same fight on a loop
- Silence that has stopped being restful
- Family roles you never agreed to
- You want to change your part of it
None of this is a diagnosis, and no outcome is guaranteed. It is a starting point for a conversation.
In Erin's words
What she would say if you called today.
Most couples arrive fighting about content and stay stuck because the pattern underneath never gets named. That pattern is workable, and it is often much older than this relationship.
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